Code of conduct

TOM is a space dedicated to positive energy, for sharing nice - and sometimes intense - moments. As we all want to feel safe and comfortable as we go through this experience, we (participants, facilitators, musicians, DJs, and organizers) follow this guide to ensure that everyone can enjoy an inclusive, respectful, and safe space.

Inclusivity

Diversity is one of our values, and we welcome everyone equally regardless of gender, gender identity, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, lifestyle, disability, appearance, religion, age, or dancing ability.
Roles in dance are not related to gender or physical appearance. It is always polite to discuss dance roles with your partner before and/or during the dance.

Consent et communication

Another fundamental value to respect is consent.
Let's respect our dance partners, their bodily autonomy, and their privacy.
Let's take particular care to obtain their consent, verbal or otherwise, for closed and close positions, drops, and hooks. If our partner seems hesitant or uncomfortable, let's respect their feelings and adapt so that we are all comfortable. If we have the slightest doubt about any of these issues, let's not hesitate to ask our partner if they are comfortable with it.

Invitation to dance

Let's not hesitate to invite everyone, but let's not forget that everyone is free to decline politely and freely, without having to give a reason. Let's accept this graciously; a dance always begins with enthusiastic consent.
Conversely, a beautiful connection on the dance floor, however intense it may be, does not necessarily mean anything else outside of it.

Safety and well-being

Let's pay attention to our personal hygiene. In addition to washing ourselves, let's remember to bring a change of clothes if necessary (preferably made of natural fibers), and avoid strong perfumes or odors.
If we are sick, let's take care of ourselves and limit our interactions with others in order to protect them.
On the dance floor, we pay attention to our partners by adapting our movements, but also to the people around us to avoid collisions.
Negative feedback is not necessary on the dance floor, except of course to discuss discomfort or risk.
At camp, drinking is not prohibited, but we pay attention to our reaction to alcohol.
Moreover, we pay attention at the camp to our clothing; all genitals must be covered (both outdoors and in shared bathrooms).

Sound policy

Let's keep our conversations at a reasonable volume when we're near each other or on the dance floor.
The music will be at a reasonable volume (around 85dB). If you're sensitive to loud noises, consider bringing earplugs.
We'll also be careful not to make noise near the bedrooms at night and in the morning. That way, everyone can get the most rest possible.

What to do in case of a problem ?

Social dancing is based on improvisation: mistakes can happen, and that's normal! If a situation makes us uncomfortable, we can talk about it directly with the person concerned if we feel safe doing so. Conversely, if our behavior has embarrassed someone, let's listen respectfully and be open-minded so that we can learn not to repeat it.
If we don't feel comfortable talking to the person directly, the care team can help us. Let's be brave and talk to them (see below).

Care team

The care team is there to take care of us, whether we have a minor injury, an emotional concern, or are the victim of inappropriate behavior. Let's first try to resolve the issue ourselves, and if that's not possible, we'll go to the care team, who will help us to the best of their ability.
If we witness or are victims of inappropriate behavior, or if we have any doubts, we should not hesitate to talk to the care team as soon as possible. The care team will treat every situation with kindness and discretion.
This will help prevent it from happening again, either to us or to others.
The organization will have zero tolerance for any form of harassment or dangerous behavior. This includes offensive comments, inappropriate physical contact, or unwanted attention. Any violation may result in a warning or exclusion from the event.

You can identify your care team below:

You can also use the confidential box located at each event venue to submit messages addressed to the organizing team.

This code of conduct was inspired by the former TOM code of conduct, as well as those of Comfusion and Black Forest.